8 Step to build a positive attitude
If you want to build and maintain a positive attitude, you need to consciously practice the following step:
Step 1: Change focus, look for the positive: You need to become a seeker of good. You need to focus on the positive in your life. Start looking for what is right in a person or situation instead of looking for what is wrong. Because of our conditioning, most of us are so attuned to finding fault and looking for what is wrong that we often forget to see what’s positive.
Step 2: Make a habit of doing it now: If you want to build and maintain a positive attitude, get into the habit of living in the present and doing it now.
A completed task is fulfilling and energizing; an incomplete task drains energy.
Step 3: Develop an attitude of gratitude: Gratitude reflects humanity. It keeps a person grounded. It is a great philosophy to live by, ‘never forget what others have done for you and never remember what you have done for others’.
Step 4: Get into a continuous Education Program: “Do we really get educated in schools and colleges?” Generally, there is a consensus that some people do but most don’t. Don’t get me wrong. We get a lot of information to get educated, but everyone who has information may not necessarily be educated e.g. a Ph.D. may have a lot of information in his area; they may or may not be educated. We live in the information age. It is estimated that the amount of information is doubling every year. So continuous education is very necessary.
Step 5: Build High self-esteem: Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. When we feel good, the world looks nice, productivity goes up and our relationships are a lot better.
If you want to build high self-esteem quickly, one of the fastest ways is to do something for those who cannot repay you in cash or kind.
Step 6: Stay away from Negative Influences: Negative influences are negative people, drugs, alcohol, pornography, etc. All negative influences pull people down. It depletes energy that could have been used constructively, to achieve new heights.
Don’t let negative people drag you down.
Step 7: Learn to like the things that need to be done:
Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible
- St. Francis of Assisi
Does an athlete always like to go for practice? Probably not. But he does it anyway. Some things need to be done whether we like them or not; for example, mothers caring for their young. This may not always be fun and may even be painful, but if we learn to like the task, the impossible becomes possible.
Step 8: Start your day with something positive: Read or listen to something positive first thing in the morning. After a good night’s sleep, we are relaxed and our subconscious is receptive. It sets the tone for the day and puts us in the right frame of mind to make the day a positive attitude.
William James of Harvard University said, “if you are going to change your life, you need to start immediately.”